NY Post – [A] growing number of men [are] participating in “man showers,” in which guys put their own bro-ish spin on the traditional, female-centric baby shower.
And these bashes are gaining popularity: Social media site Pinterest reports that searches for “man showers” increased by 149 percent in 2015. …
“It’s a really interesting phenomenon,” says Simon Isaacs, 35, the Park Slope, Brooklyn-based co-founder of parenting Web site Fatherly, whose own rather tame man shower involved letting loose at a Garth Brooks concert.
“Guys are getting more and more involved with their wives’ pregnancies,” Isaacs adds. “Ninety percent of men are participating in picking out registries, we’re encouraging them to take more paternity leave. I think having something that allows a guy to transition from dude to dad is an important element in getting him prepared [for fatherhood].”
I’m sorry, what did you say, Simon Issacs? Something about “man showers,” Pinterest and Garth Brooks? I couldn’t really hear you over the sound of American manhood standing in its own grave and digging the hole deeper.
This is what it’s come to. In my father’s time, even being in the delivery room was unheard of. You dropped your wife off at the hospital, put her in the hands of the doctor, grabbed a six pack and a pack of smokes and went home to wait for the call to come meet your baby. It was simple and it worked for all involved.
Then somewhere between his generation and mine, attendance became mandatory. And not just in the birthing unit, but going to the classes, listening to lectures about breast-feeding (like I play any kind of a role in that dynamic), getting schooled on the breathing exercises. They even asked me to come around to the foot of the bed to take in all the action, to which I answered, “Yeah, I’m all set. I’d rather hang onto a little of the mystery, thanks.”
Even that was fine. It still preserved the important, time-honored tradition of our fathers. Namely, getting together with your friends to hand out cigars, brag, show pictures of the baby and get drunk. But I have to draw the line at “man showers.” Novelty cakes, women’s social media sites, baby registries and “Friends in Low Places?” It would less unnerving if man showers actually involved men taking showers.
Sorry, but this country was built by men who didn’t have to “transition from dude to dad.” They just provided for their families, fixed their own cars and kicked ass and would walk into the lion enclosure at the zoo before they’d go to some bros shower.
All we can hope is that this isn’t really a phenomenon and that word doesn’t get out. The rest of the world is already becoming convinced we’ve become a nation of hipster weaklings. And the “man showers” fad is like exposing our jugular vein to them. Man up, bros.